First stage DOUBT: frustration, burnout, or simply unhappiness with an accustomed status and the roles associated with the group or relationship.
Second stage SEARCH FOR ALTERNATIVES: you may think about or start planning for separation.
Third stage ACTION OR DEPARTURE: a clear turning point makes you feel it is essential to leave.
Last stage: CREATION OF A NEW IDENITY: form new connections - who do you want to be?
Adjusted from Helen Ebaugh's Becoming and Ex