Here are some common after-effects from coercion. Decide for yourself if they apply to you. Remember, the same group can be seen as okay for some, while being toxic for others. An individual can nice towards people they want to impress, while destroying those closest to them. 

 

  • Thoughts keep circling in my head, I can't make them stop

  • I don't think I'm worthy of love

  • I have fears about the world ending, hell, karma or other punishment

  • Fear of making mistakes, difficulty making decisions 

  • Sense of dread, anxiety and panic

  • Guilt for having left the group and leaving people behind

  • Guilt for living / enjoying life

  • An internalized voice criticizing or policing me

  • Strong beliefs and inner convictions that I didn't choose

  • Feeling responsible for others and their needs

  • Lack of boundaries, not sure when someone is violating mine

  • Difficulty connecting with other people

  • No sense of who I am, my identity outside of the group

  • Difficulty talking about and making sense of my experience

  • I feel depressed and find it difficult to function

  • I am very angry, there's so much rage

  • I have a hard time connecting to my emotions

  • I question my reasoning, how I make decisions

  • I put myself down

  • I still think in us-versus-them terms, who is the enemy now?

  • I daydream or just drift off, disconnect from my feelings

  • I feel like I have to be productive all the time, difficulty relaxing

  • I don't feel safe

(Read more of the questions on the intake questionnaire. You can look at the questions without sending the form).