THE 5-UNIT CURRICULUM
UNIT 1: COMMON CHALLENGES AFTER LEAVING
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Not knowing who you are
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Anxiety, dissociation, anger and depression
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Loss of community and friends, loneliness
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Leaving people behind and mourning
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Feelings of betrayal and loss
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Shame and self-blame
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Repressed emotions
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Unwanted thoughts
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All-or-nothing and black-or-white thinking
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New social rules and a new world
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Finding housing and work
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Issues with relationships and intimacy
UNIT 2: WHAT IS A DESTRUCTIVE GROUP?
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Promises exclusivity and the “only truth”
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Recruitment, love-bombing and a change in identity
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The toll of daily demands, unquestioning loyalty and devotion
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Strict rules and threats of punishment (sometimes eternal)
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Pressure and lack of privacy, always being “on”
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How those that leave are treated, shunning and defamation
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Fear, isolation, and coercion as a tool to bind members
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Strong walls between the group and outsiders
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Leaders, narcissists, psychopaths, and “gods”
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Your group experience in the context of society and family
UNIT 3: BOUNDARIES AND IDENTITY
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Why individuality and strong boundaries were discouraged
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Not being allowed to say “no” – a gateway to psychological, physical and sexual abuse
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Anger as a good indicator for when boundaries are crossed
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Learning to say "no” and accept "no" – growing new boundaries
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The group’s belief system and deciding for oneself
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Developing one’s own identity and goals
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Finding one’s inner space and refuge again
UNIT 4: REDUCING ANXIETY AND DEVELOPING CONFIDENCE
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Perfectionism and having to save the world
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The effects of adrenaline and heightened stress levels
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Failure, rejection and resilience – how to keep going
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Learning from mistakes and living with uncertainty
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Developing confidence and standing up for yourself
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Learning to trust your instincts and your own perception
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Making decisions and taking responsibility
UNIT 5: MOVING ON AND GETTING HELP
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Forgiving yourself, allowing moments of weakness
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Assessing whom to trust, when to tell your story
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How to connect with people in a healthy way
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Relationship 101
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Developing self-protection skills
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Voicing your opinions at work and in relationships
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Identifying and communicating your needs
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How to find a therapist or reach out for help
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Enjoying life, developing hobbies and being content